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Just as gender and sexual orientation are on spectrums, so too is Jewish observance and practice — multiple spectrums, in fact because we have so many ethnicities and nationalities and denominations within those ethnic cultures. A secular French-Moroccan Jew has a different culture than an Orthodox French-Moroccan Jew and a secular German-Australian Jew. There are so many shared experiences and so many differences! So many ways to identify! So many ways to be.
Rituals and traditions differ from community to community. You are definitely more observant than someone and less observant than someone else on a given denominational spectrum, and that’s great! That fact doesn’t have to drag you down — let the knowledge that there are other denominational spectrums keep you free and content to be part of our diverse multitude.